In couple therapy, it is common to hear each partner describe the relationship's difficulties as though they were caused by the other person. "If they would just stop shutting down," one might say. "If they would just stop nagging," the other replies. Both are usually sincere. Both are usually only telling part of the story. What is happening here has less to do with who is objectively right and more to do with a psychological process researchers call attribution - the explanations we...

Recognising Your Relational Patterns Across All Relationships Have you ever found yourself in a heated argument with your partner and...

When couples first walk through my door, they often describe feeling stuck in cycles of conflict that seem impossible to break. They love...